I speak/ write/ train a lot about PERSPECTIVE. It is imperative to have perspective so that we are not self-centered. If we do not have perspective, then all we have is our own view.
A toddler learns perspective as empathy. Is my mommy hurt? Is my daddy sad? If so, can I give them a hug to make it better? Did I just do something funny and make everyone laugh and be happy? When they learn to walk, they learn to walk around and see things differently, crouch down for the always cute pic that parents can take while they are trying to get a better view!
So if we explore and learn well with an innocence that gave us our best foundation, why do we stop ourselves later in life from continuing to seek a different perspective? Why do we choose to hold back our instincts to find the best view? Learn the most?
For me, it was an issue of a safe place to land. I didn’t always feel the atmosphere was the safest
to learn and fail. Maybe that was as simple as not knowing what questions I should ask, or not having the time to understand what I didn’t know. Sometimes I was so tired I didn’t want to see a different perspective because it was easier to just do what I knew would work and not ask questions. There are LOTS of reasons why we choose to not seek a different perspective. The concept comes when we realize that we are limiting ourselves and our environment by not seeking new and different perspectives and we can do better at the moment.
What works for me:
I have trusted friends and peers that I can go to when I need to check myself. “Am I missing something here?” or “Tell me where I need to look to see this differently” is something you often hear my tribe saying to each other. Notice we aren’t saying “you’re w